30 Something

      Yes, we celebrated our thirtieth wedding anniversary.  I was thinking that maybe I would post some advice about marriage, being that I've had so much experience now, but really I think marriage is so unique to each couple, that what works for one relationship is not necessarily good advice for another.  I think marriage is a lot like the ocean which can be calm or stormy depending on outside influences.  Even after all this time, my husband and I can get along very well or not at all.  It used to frighten me when we did not get along, but now, I know that we will get through whatever waves of discontent our circumstances create.  But it doesn't happen instantly and may take a few days.  We have to take time to strengthen what holds us together so we don't fall prey to what attempts to drive us apart.  There is a law of physics that applies here but I don't know its name.  It has do to with how objects will naturally drift apart if not guided in the same direction.  When we got married, we had a lot of baggage that interfered with our relationship.  As time has gone on, that baggage has been replaced with good times, passion, and experience. Older and wiser is a good thing for us, we're more mellow and understanding.  So not much advice today, but a few observations.  Of course, you're always welcome to share your thoughts, or keep them to yourself.  It's all good.